Almost half the population of North America lives with a chronic illness, which doesn’t stop at the 120 forms of arthritis.There’s diabetes, epilepsy, heart disease, lung disease, multiple sclerosis, inflammatory bowel disease — the list goes on.My diagnosis created a transformation in me, it made me blossom into a stronger and better version of myself.Yet, I have a chronic and progressive form of arthritis — and I am disabled.
are difficult questions to answer to a stranger who cannot see my invisible illness. But always being positive through chronic illness is a challenge.You never really know how they are going to respond. I want them to see how strong RA has made me, the lessons it’s taught me, and how it’s shaped me into who I am today. Do I lie and say what I think they want to hear, or do I tell them the truth and risk being perceived as a Debbie Downer? And I don’t want to approach a potential relationship without honesty.I want them to see my 60-plus pound weight loss and how seriously I take care of myself now. I inform dates of my arthritis at the soonest possible moment; I don’t want to waste any time weeding out the ones who have problems with it — or my son, for that matter.I sometimes wonder who’s the bigger idiot: him, or me for dating him in the first place.
They say you’re supposed to date people you share common interests with.
Telling them you have an “old lady” disease is even more unattractive.