Disillusioned with online dating
Online daters, disappointed by potential partners lying about their age, weight or marital status, are turning to professional matchmakers to find love.REUTERS/Michaela Rehle Rather than risk taking pot luck online, chief executives, entertainers and politicians are among those paying thousands of dollars to matchmakers to discreetly “headhunt” and vet the perfect partner.Researchers are just beginning to understand the new and complicated dynamics of online dating, and it is unclear what factors go into successful matching, though long-term relationship satisfaction is likely to come from the same factors regardless of how people meet (see here for an overview of predictors of relationship satisfaction).How do couples move from online dating to that all-important first date?“In the old days you had your extended family, or in some societies an actual matchmaker, trying to find someone for you,” said dating expert Mary Balfour.“Nowadays people have a personal matchmaker in the same way they would have a personal trainer,” she said at her Drawing Down the Moon agency in London’s Adam and Eve Mews.
Websites now abound for straight, gay, Jewish, Christian, disabled or millionaire daters, but figures show a large chunk of those looking for love in cyberspace are disillusioned.
I don’t think any of them were the mad axe man type, but if you’d met them anywhere else you wouldn’t touch them with a barge pole,” said London nursing manager Joanna Haworth, 36.
“Some might have used photos from three years ago when they were three stone lighter.
Disenchanted with online dating and keen to put as much effort into finding a partner as he did to his career, Los Angeles product designer Bill Conley signed up for relationship seminars at matchmaker Julie Ferman’s Cupid’s Coach agency.
“Los Angeles is the temple of the external appearance.
Everyone does a good job of hiding themselves underneath a lot of gloss, expensive clothes and plastic surgery,” said Conley.